Things you should do to Make Sex Last Longer

Whether you regularly experience premature ejaculation, a
common sexual problem for men, or simply want to find
ways to make sex last longer, there are plenty of things you
can do both during and before sex to prevent yourself from
getting too excited too quickly. Read this article to learn how.

Relax and be positive. Premature ejaculation is as
much a physical issue as a mental one. Try not to
create a self-fulfilling prophecy by labeling yourself as
sexually incompetent in any way. Approaching sex with
confidence, self respect, and a positive attitude rather
than fear and self-doubt can make all the difference for
both you and your partner.
"Practice" with yourself. Masturbation is perfectly
healthy and natural, and doing it regularly can help
you build up your stamina, prevent premature
ejaculation,[1] and even relieve stress and anxiety. Plus,
the more time you spend with yourself, the more familiar
you will become with your body so that you can more
easily recognize when you get too excited. That way,
during sex, you can know when to slow down or change
positions before it's too late.
Find a regular sexual partner if possible. Men tend
to get particularly worked up during their first time
with a new woman, especially if this woman is somebody
he has been lusting after for a long time. Realize that
sometimes it really isn't you, but rather, how attracted to
and excited you are about being in bed with her. And
that's perfectly ok.
Being in a monogamous relationship is a great way to
improve your performance in bed, and the more time
you spend with one person, the more comfortable and
confident you will feel during sex.
Wear a condom. Lots of men complain that condoms
decrease pleasure and sensitivity during sex, but if
you're trying to last longer in bed, that might be just what
you need. And, of course, there's the added bonus of
preventing against unwanted pregnancies and sexually
transmitted diseases.
Cut down on alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs.
Using these substances in excess may interfere with
your ability to control ejaculation.[2]
Use a topical medication. Desensitizing sprays and
creams have been used for years to help men last
longer but the side effects of sensation loss and partner
transference have prevented them from widespread use.
There is a new class of topical sprays with absorption
technology that enables a mild anesthetic to penetrate the
outer layer of penile skin to the nerves below that control
ejaculation, providing superior control and good sensation
for the man and generally unnoticeable transfer to the
woman. There are several products available in the U.S. at
the moment.
Part One of Two:
Before Sex
Don't skip foreplay. Studies have shown that couples
that indulge in foreplay report having sex for longer
than those who don't.[3] Instead of getting right down to
business, take some time to cuddle, kiss, touch one
another, and so on. The more time you spend on foreplay,
the longer you'll be in bed together.
If you get too excited during foreplay, stop her from
doing whatever she's doing and focus all of your
attention on her instead.
Change positions often. This can shift your attention.
Plus, exploring different sexual positions can make sex
more exciting and ensure that both partners are satisfied.
Also, don't be afraid to stop having sex temporarily to
focus on her.
Let her be in control. The person who is in control is
usually the one experiencing most of the pleasure;
letting her be in control can help decrease some of the
sensitivity you feel.
Try to distract yourself. If you find yourself getting
too excited during sex, try to distract yourself from
how turned on you are by thinking about something
completely unrelated to the situation, like work or school.
Temporarily diverting your attention can help you relax
and slow down.
Whatever you think of, make sure that it's something
that doesn't turn you on sexually in any way.
Take slow, deep breaths. Many men find that
breathing slowly and deeply during sex can help them
last longer. This can be attributed to the fact that breathing
helps us relax. Try to breathe deep into your belly. Feel it
expanding as you inhale. It may also help to hold your
breath for two or three seconds before exhaling, slowly.
This holding can have a calming, centering effect.